(Or, as a previous 2015 film was called, "Autism in Love".) Notice how the words "autism" and "spectrum" are literally in the title, and thus, the focal point of the show(s). Replace "trans" with "autism", and you get "Love on the Spectrum". However, instead of focusing on the trans people as people, the show instead focuses on the "trans" part, including showing other people laughing at and making fun of some of the trans people for."being trans", basically. Put it this way.imagine if Netflix had created a show called "Trans Love", about transgender people looking for love. Never heard from them again or got a txt saying 'it's not working." "I was dating a guy/gal and things were going well. Even posts around here where it has happened. Like seriously seen plenty of 'our' people doing well with dating until they mention the damn spectrum. Might be a problem if you don't tell people you're a serial killer, but it shouldn't matter if you don't spell out to every person you meet that you have a touch of teh Rain Mans. Of course it is different for everybody, do what works for you, be just sure to be yourself and honest. No need for "yeah because I am an Aspergers." Things just come in a little bit more dialled up for me than most folks. "I noticed being in noisy environments seems to affect you." "yeah because I am hyper-sensitive. No need for "yeah because I am an autistic." "I noticed you seem anxious around large groups of people." "Yeah that's because I have social anxiety. Just be honest when or if THEY notice something and bring it up. So yeah, let people judge you on your actions. The change in some people who knew me forever. But oh boy once I got that 'autism' label. I was just a little bit different to people. People used to just call me nerdy, or eccentric. People tend to be more accepting of a 'label' once they get to know you. In fairness, he’s a college professor now, so the whole “talking into the air at nobody in particular” thing really works out well for him. The other feels a little cold and isolating from my side of the room. One feels engaging, conversational, and brings us closer. We’ve been happily married for 10 years this month! I love him dearly, but there are DEFINITELY two different talking modes. Within the first few weeks of dating, one night I noted the time on a nearby clock and timed how long he talked without me visually or verbally acknowledging him in any way. My husband can be looking in a different direction and is still talking to me, being engaging in other ways that don’t involve eye direction, but he also has another mode where he really is talking into the air and is not conversing WITH me. Michael has become a role model for countless.As a not-autistic person, (full disclosure, I haven’t watched the show yet) I am married to someone with Aspergers and I totally understand the “talk to me, not to yourself” thing. I know some of my mentees worry about breaking up with a partner because of doubts about finding someone else. I admired him for realizing what he wants in a relationship and not settling. When he found a match, I was rooting that it could be “the one,” but alas, he preferred to just be friends with her by the end of the season. I applaud him for continuing to put himself out there, most specifically in doing speed dating, which can be an intimidating experience for anyone. Michael – What can I say? Michael reminds me so much of myself growing up on the autism spectrum, searching for love in my 20s, so when I heard he’d be back for another season, I was genuinely excited. At times there are heartfelt moments, funny one-liners, and at other times a bit of awkwardness sprinkled in. Here are some key highlights for me from the season. While many dating shows feel scripted, you can tell this one doesn’t. Overall I was pleased again with the cast’s authenticity in their pursuits of dating, romance and love. Warning: Spoilers ahead, so if you haven’t watched yet, give this article a share on social media and come back later.
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